Most high performers believe that if they just manage their time better, they’ll finally achieve work-life balance.

That belief is why they stay exhausted.

​This week on Engineering Better Conversations, I sat down with executive coach and author Lora Creston to talk about burnout, boundaries, and why “work-life balance” might be the wrong goal entirely.

I first met Lora at DisruptHR Windsor.

We hit it off over a shared passion for wine. 🍷

But beneath that easy laughter was a deeper alignment — a shared frustration with how many ambitious, capable professionals are quietly burning out while trying to “balance” everything.

On a cold winter day, this is the kind of conversation worth putting on in the background while you reflect.

​Here are a few moments that stayed with me.

Lora said it plainly:

Work-life balance is a myth.

Balance suggests two equal sides, perfectly weighted on a scale.

Life does not work that way.

You don’t have two categories.

You have work.
Relationships.
Emotional health.
Physical health.
Growth.

Trying to hold all of that in perfect equilibrium is exhausting.

Integration is the better word.

Integration asks: What matters right now?
​And gives you permission to flex.

Burnout isn’t always overload.

Sometimes it’s perfectionism.
Sometimes it’s people-pleasing.
Sometimes it’s boredom.
Sometimes it’s fear of failure — or fear of success.

One moment that stood out for me was when Lora talked about language.

When clients say, “I’ll try,” she stops them.

“Try” gives you an out.

Experimenting builds resilience.

High performers often struggle not because they lack ability, but because they demand perfection before action.

Growth requires experimentation.
Experimentation requires failure.
Failure requires emotional fitness.

​Without emotional fitness, we stall.

Not all burnout looks dramatic.

Sometimes burnout is overwhelm.

Sometimes it’s disengagement.

Sometimes it’s the quiet erosion that comes from not being stretched, not being challenged, not feeling valued.

The common thread?

A lack of intentional choice.

We forget we can:

• Say no
• Ask for more
• Delegate
• Redesign our calendar
• Leave

Work is part of your life.

​It is not your life.

One of my favourite practical moments in our conversation was about communication.

You train people how quickly to respond to you.

If you respond instantly every time, people will expect it.

Lora shared simple ways leaders can reduce overwhelm:

Audit your meetings.
Block thinking time.
Clarify communication channels.
Set expectations around response times.

And one tactic I loved?

Use emojis to signal urgency and action.

⚡ Urgent
👀 Review
✅ Action complete

Tiny shifts.

Massive clarity.

When expectations are clear, friction decreases.
When friction decreases, energy returns.

Boundaries demonstrate where you end and someone else begins.

​Clarity reduces burnout.

Toward the end of our conversation, Lora asked a powerful question:

Who will you have become by the end of next year?

Not what will you achieve.

Who will you have become?

Growth is not accidental.

It requires reflection.
It requires experimentation.
It requires letting go of what no longer serves you.

And sometimes — it requires admitting you are done.

There are seasons we carry forward.
And seasons we leave behind.

​You do not have to take everything with you into the next year.

Work-life balance is a myth.

Work-life integration is a decision.

Choosing on purpose what matters — and letting go of the rest — is the real work.

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However you consume it, this is a conversation worth having.

Especially if you’re working incredibly hard — and still feeling behind.

​— Nancy